In millions of American homes, mothers and fathers are tearing their hair out trying to motivate their sons to finish high school, move out of the house, get a college degree, and live the “happy ever after” American dream. While their problems seem personal, the statistics are not.
· Boys receive 70% of D and F grades
· Boys account for 80% of high school dropouts
· Boys cause 80% of classroom behavioral problems
· Boys represent up to 70% of children diagnosed with learning disabilities
· Boys represent 80% of children diagnosed with behavioral problems
· Boys represent up to 80% of children on Ritalin and other medicine used to treat attention deficit hyperactivity disorder
· Boys represent less than 44% of America’s college students
Today in America women earn 57% of all BAs and 58% of all master’s degrees. Demographers project that if this trend continues there will be 156 women per 100 men earning degrees by 2020.
It’s not just education. Boys are failing to launch into adulthood. Young men, if they do leave, are more likely return home and, for the first time in history, women in their 20s are out earning their male counterparts.
A parent might soothe him or herself by saying “who cares so long as my son is happy.” But is he really happy? The fact that boys are 85% more likely to commit murder, and four to six times more likely to kill themselves suggests otherwise.
This all seems pretty alarming to me, so where is the national outrage? Well, there is the periodic national news story where the problem is examined and quickly forgotten. There is the occasional alarming statement by an education official but once the cameras are gone no one really does anything. There are the websites and nonprofits urging action but so far no real national urgency has emerged.
Complicating the issue, the proposed solutions from those who recognize the problem are frequently clouded by political agendas. The feminists claim the problem doesn’t exist, and the anti-feminist claim the problem exists because of the feminists. Unfortunately no one seems to have done the obvious. No one has asked the boys.
I am thrilled with the progress made by women in education and in life. But the goal has never been to exceed the achievements of young men. The goal has been to equalize education and employment opportunities. How can anyone look at these statistics and believe that education and opportunity is equal in America?
So I ask “Who cares about the boys?”


